Claire wasn’t ready for this. At 43, having just seen her youngest child off to college, she had been looking forward to some time to herself, to spend with her friends, to start exercising again, and to begin pursuing a hobby she had put off for a long time. Her father slipped and fell and was going to require a lengthy recovery and her mother asked for help.
Being that she lived in the same town, Claire never thought twice.
She was a bit upset, but more worried about her father. She knew there were things she would have to put on hold for a little bit longer, but she figured this was not going to be too difficult. She did not consider herself a family caregiver, mostly because her mother was the primary individual, the primary point person in this relationship.
However, before too long, Claire began to realize her mother was either unwilling or incapable of providing the optimal level of care and support her father needed. That meant Claire was being called on more and more frequently in the first couple of weeks and by the time he had been home for a month, she knew what she was: a family caregiver.
She had brothers and sisters, but never called for help.
One of her brothers and two sisters didn’t live that far away. They were basically within a half hour of her parents’ house, and though they knew what was going on, they never really stepped up or offered to help.
She didn’t want to ask for help, either, because for so long she was the one whom nobody really thought of to take care of things, and she had something to prove. What she discovered before too long was that this type of work, taking care of her father and helping him recover, was causing a lot of stress in her life. It caused problems in her marriage, she missed certain monumental moments in her children’s lives, and she was even getting testy, frustrated, and fighting with her mother almost daily.
Claire did not have to do this alone.
If she had known about home care support, if she had realized the value these caregivers could offer her and her father, she would’ve reduced the stress, improved the quality of care and support, and her father may have even recovered faster or better than he actually did. It’s a lesson for most families when they begin struggling with caring for an aging parent or other individual.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Havana, FL, please call the caring staff at Hopewell In-Home Senior Care today at 850-386-5552. Providing Senior Care Services in North Florida.
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