One of the most difficult things people struggle with when witnessing an aging parent contending with their safety, mobility, or everyday life is what, exactly, they can do. Many of these adult children want to be there for their mother and father, but they might not live in the area, they may have numerous responsibilities with their career, raising children, and other things going on every day. Discovering the benefits of home care support is great, but bringing up this topic can cause some unnecessary stress and anxiety.
Knowing when to talk about it is key.
It’s like any sensitive topic. Discussing it at the wrong time can be met with immediate resistance, defiance, and even anger. For example, a man in his mid-70s who has been fiercely independent for most of his life may have this preconceived idea that outside support, meaning outside the family, was unnecessary, a waste of money, or could lead to a loss of independence. Anyone who begins talking about home care could be met with frustration, anger, and even belligerence.
The best time to bring up this topic is when everyone is calm.
If this elderly senior (in this example) has recently slipped and is being helped up from the ground, their family or friends are assessing the situation, this might not be the most appropriate time to talk about home care. It might certainly be a first thought of that individual helping, but a person who has fallen may be embarrassed, frustrated, and even frightened. Those emotions have a tendency to lead to defensiveness.
They could often be met with belligerence and hostility when the topic of home care is discussed. Instead of talking about it right then and there, file it away for later, possibly in the evening after dinner. Talk about what was observed, what happened, why it’s so important to focus on safety and having the right support on hand going forward.
It’s also a good idea to learn as much as possible about home care yourself.
Before bringing up the topic of home care to somebody else, be as well-informed as possible. That’s because the senior or other disabled adult may have questions, even rhetorical ones, that could be designed to shoot down the discussion right away. After all, if a person believes the other individual talking about this topic really doesn’t know much about it, they can just ask a few pointed questions to (possibly smugly) shoot it down.
Knowing when and how to bring up the topic of home care can have a direct impact on getting people to think about it more seriously.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care for seniors in Monticello, FL, please call the caring staff at Hopewell In-Home Senior Care today at 850-386-5552. Providing Senior Care Services in North Florida.
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