Jesse had never thought she would be taking care of her elderly mother. Her father had always been strong and supportive of everyone, the type of man who would drop everything to be there for his friends. When he passed away suddenly, it was a shock, not just to her, but her mother and everyone else in the family.
In the years since, her mother did her best, but her health and strength were declining.
Jesse lived close to her parents and knew that she would be the one her mother called on for assistance. One major problem was that her mother had never been a nice individual. She and her mother often clashed about many things.
Her mother had an abrasive personality and was very self-absorbed, arrogant, and mean to her children, some friends, and even her husband. Jesse never said much and the rare times she conjured up enough courage to talk about these issues with her father, he would simply smile and say, “That’s just the way she is.” It seemed like nothing could bother him.
As the stress of being a caregiver built, Jesse was afraid.
She started realizing she was becoming just like her mother. She started snapping at her husband. She started getting short and snippy with her coworkers and even her children when they stopped over for a visit. She found herself nitpicking the checkout clerk at the grocery store, saying nasty and demeaning things to people who didn’t deserve it.
This was not who she wanted to be.
One morning, as she woke up and got ready to stop over her mother’s house on the way to work, she looked at her reflection in the mirror. She didn’t see herself; she saw her mother. She realized in that moment something had to change.
She talked about it with her husband, a few coworkers she trusted, and several close friends. They all said the same thing: consider home care providers.
She tried talking to her mother about hiring a home care aide, but all she received in response was more of the nastiness she had grown accustomed to in her life. That’s when she made a decision that if her mother wants to be like this, she would have to rely on a home care aide because Jesse can no longer go down this road and let the stress of life as a caregiver change her into what she didn’t like about her mother.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Tallahassee, FL, please call the caring staff at Hopewell In-Home Senior Care today at 850-386-5552. Providing Senior Care Services in North Florida.
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