It’s wonderful you want to be there for your mother. She may be in her 70s or 80s, living alone, and having difficulty with her own basic care. As people get older, it becomes more and more challenging for some to take care of themselves in a healthy and safe manner.
You want to be there for her, but what does that mean?
Do you know exactly what type of care she requires? Do you know how often you will be called on for help? Do you have a full-time job and other responsibilities to take care of right now? If you do, you need to consider how this life as a family caregiver is going to impact you.
Yes, you may feel responsible.
A lot of adult children, a spouse, and other family members feel responsible for a loved one during a time of need. You are not responsible for your mother, but that’s not going to change how you feel. You don’t want to let her down. You may even feel guilty if you consider not stopping over one day to help her change over the laundry, get something up from the basement, take the garbage out for her, or something else.
Now is the time to talk about home care.
Yes, you want to be there for her, but you only have so many hours in a day. You simply can’t do everything on your own. You need help. If you can explain it to your mother in a loving way, you can then transition the conversation to discussing home care options.
A home care aide can be hired for just a couple of hours at a time.
Your mother might only need help a couple of days a week. That might not seem like a big deal, but it could be huge to you. Through an agency, your mother can rely on a home care provider for just two hours at a time once or twice a week.
This could be the perfect solution to helping her transition from taking care of herself without a problem to relying on you every once in a while to depending on somebody on a regular basis.
You can still be there for her.
You can still support your mother. You can still help her prepare a meal, go shopping, and do other things every once in a while, but with a home care aide stopping by consistently every week, every other day, or however often they’re scheduled, it can be the best thing for both of you moving forward.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care for a senior in Perry, FL, please call the caring staff at Hopewell In-Home Senior Care today at 850-386-5552. Providing Senior Care Services in North Florida.
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